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May 15th, 2008

Question I wish I had asked

There’s an excellent post at Caring.com by Paula Spencer.
In Questions I Wish I Had Asked Mom, Spencer brings up a good point, I wish I had asked my mother more questions about her side of things when she was dying.
It’s hard toward the end, because you are tuned into taking care of “business” […]

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March 7th, 2008

Feeling relief when a parent dies

When a parent dies, there are all kinds of emotions. But, one that doesn’t always get a lot of press is “relief”.
There might be feelings of relief that the parent is no longer suffering. However, for some, a parent’s death might bring about a sense of emotional freedom, especially when the relationship with the parent […]

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February 26th, 2008

The Unofficial Moment We Become An Adult

My friend, Newscoma reflects on becoming an adult:
There are those official moments when you know you’ve been tossed into adultdom and you know it. Illness of a parent or making long-term lifetime commitments are the obvious choices of when we do “Crap, I’m a damned adult. Get me out of here.”
And, her post on the […]

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January 7th, 2008

Life changes after a parent’s death

At the risk of getting hung up on people whose parents have died, I wanted to point you to my friend, Jenn’s, powerful entry about her own journey on the anniversary of her mother’s death.
Tags: anniversary-of-mothers-death, death-of-a-parent, Jenn, Mommy-Needs-Coffee, sandwich-generation

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January 5th, 2008

More friends join the death of a parent ranks

Today has been kind of a bummer.
I have two friends whose fathers are dying as I write this.
I guess I need to review what I learned from other people when my own mother died (hmm, seems like I’ve said my mother died “last year” forever, but, now I have to say she “died […]

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July 24th, 2007

The First Year

Apparently, I forgot to write about the first anniversary (July 20th) of my mother’s death here.
I started talking about it at Busymom.net, and, I guess I just kept going over there.
Prior to the day, I found myself really restless, and, I couldn’t really pinpoint why, but, I guess this was it.
I talked […]

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June 30th, 2007

The Death of a Parent

Jill Fallon writes a beautiful 3 post series about her mother’s death at Legacy Matters, and, Estate Vaults.
The first post, My Mother is Dying, tells of her colon cancer diagnosis, and, her rather rapid decline.
A Beautiful Death describes her joyful last days, and, finally, she wrote a Eulogy for My (her) Mother.
It’s a little […]

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February 27th, 2007

Grieving a mother’s death

My friend, Newscoma, has a touching post on the 9th anniversary of her mother’s death.
I may be 41, but you never get over losing a parent. The cancer she had was really horrible and we saw this lovely, vibrant woman disintegrate before our eyes over a period of 14 months.
Go read the rest.
Tags: death-of-a-parent, Newscoma, […]

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January 19th, 2007

More on the death of a parent

At the risk of this becoming the “adults who lose their parents” blog, if you are a Grey’s Anatomy fan, last night was moving.
I didn’t get to see it, and, I don’t want to spoil everything about it for you, but, someone’s dad died. My friend, Sista Smiff, writes about her reaction to it […]

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