Question I wish I had asked
There’s an excellent post at Caring.com by Paula Spencer.
In Questions I Wish I Had Asked Mom, Spencer brings up a good point, I wish I had asked my mother more questions about her side of things when she was dying.
It’s hard toward the end, because you are tuned into taking care of “business” and attending to physical needs.
Other than the types of questions in the article, the thing I most wish I had asked my mother was, “How do you know?” the day she told us she “had to go”.
While I fully realize that was probably none of my business, she was lucid and would have realized that had never stopped me before.
I felt a little guilty about wanting to know that until my father admitted he wished he had asked it, too.
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2 opinions for Question I wish I had asked
ERNESTINE
May 15, 2008 at 1:48 pm
I was my mother’s caregiver. She passed away 8 years ago a week before her 84th birthday.
I know this is a simple answer.
But “you just know”
I know this is probably not a good comparison.
But like with a mate or some other matters in life
“you just know”
My belief is that this comes from God.
Jim
May 15, 2008 at 3:14 pm
The human person is made up of 2 parts ; the spiritual and the physical .
The physical cannot live without the spirit ; but the spirit can live without the physical .
When the spirit goes back ” home ” , it goes back to total love .
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