My friend, Newscoma, has a touching post on the 9th anniversary of her mother’s death.
I may be 41, but you never get over losing a parent. The cancer she had was really horrible and we saw this lovely, vibrant woman disintegrate before our eyes over a period of 14 months.
Go read the rest.
Tags: death-of-a-parent, Newscoma, sandwich-generationPOSTED IN: Aging Parents, Bereavement
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2 opinions for Grieving a mother’s death
Sarah
Jun 3, 2008 at 9:00 pm
I lost my dad in 1992, 3 weeks after my first child was born and 4 days after my 30th b’day! Needless to say, I hardly noticed turning 30. I was very close to my dad and with every year that goes by, on his b’day I think about how old he would be today or how much he would enjoyed my kids. But now I am dealing with my mother going through esophageal cancer and how we are grabbing at every last straw to find her some relief from the nausea and having to eat through a feeding tube. I am scared to death of what this awful beast is going to do to her to make her last weeks more difficult then they have already been. I’m not only scared for her but selfishly, for myself and I am going to deal with losing my mom, my best friend. Tomorrow she starts palliative radiation as she couldn’t handle the way chemo effected her. They are pretty much doing this to see if it will shrink the tumor that is keeping her nauseated all the time. The radiation might be too much so we just have to try and see. My mom is tough and is not going to go down without a fight. She has already battled two other primary cancers in her life, breast and ovarian. I need somebody to tell me how to prepare for this because just writing this is killing me. I already miss her.
Sarah
Linda
Jun 10, 2008 at 3:02 pm
I wish I could tell you that when she dies you will be able to move on and not think about it any more. I can’t do that. What I do say to you is that take a much time as you need to greive your lost. There will be days when life will be unbarable, but this to shall pass. Life will slowly become normal again. Two years after the death of my mother I still have my moments when the anger rushes back in and it seem so unfair. Yet, I have gotten past the pain and hurt and you will too.
Peace and blessing,
Linda
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